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josh munson: hey,everyone, and welcome to tonight's live webinar,overwhelmed and educated-- how to be less busy ingetting the most important things done without yougiving up your life. i'm josh munson, theprogram coordinator
Yoga Pullman Wa, with wsu global connections. if you're joiningus tonight, and you feel too busy in any area ofyour life, let me tell you, you're in for a treat.
before i introduceour guest speaker, i want to let you know thatyou can play along at home or wherever you happen to be. if you look to theright of the video feed, you'll see a checkbox. go ahead and let usknow where you're from, if you can hear my voice, bytyping that into the chat box. now let me introduce to you ourguest speaker for the night. he used to be in hr leadershipdoing thousands of interviews
with candidates looking for jobsand hiring hundreds of people over the span of 10 years. you should askhim about the time when he received a signed8x10 glossy photo along with the resume and applicationfor a mechanic position. now he helps othersmake big career changes with his company,happen to your career. he's been featured on placeslike monster, careerbuilder, the huffington post,and yahoo education
as an expert in helpingothers finding and doing work they love. now without any further ado,here's scott anthony barlow. scott anthonybarlow: thanks, josh. really, really appreciate it. and i'm lookinghere in the chat, and we've got peoplefrom all over the place. we've got-- i seehope from seattle. i see carrie fromgresham, oregon.
i used to live inoregon, by the way. casey from pullman, washington. nolan from vancouver. actually lived in vancouveron the other side of the river too, but let's see. olivia, who's moderatinghere, by the way. you can give it upfor olivia at home. and then we've gotsky from battleground. tacoma, carrie.
hi, carrie from tacoma. victoria from yakima. so we've got washington stateand even oregon covered here. priscilla from philadelphia,if i could even say it right, and then megan,also from pullman. thank you so much for joining. really, really,really appreciate it. and this isabsolutely fantastic, and i've got to tell you,yesterday, actually, i
sent out the reminderemail for this webinar, and i sent it to people that hadalready registered at the time, and i titled it webinar--how to be less busy. that's what it said inthe subject headline. and as soon as i sentit out, immediately afterwards, i got this flood ofauto replies and out of office replies, and those cameback automatically. and the first one, thefirst one that i opened said, re webinar-- how tobe less busy in the title.
and then in thebody of the email it said, hey, we'rein my busy season, so i won't be able toreply back right away. so i thought that was bothhilarious, and it's like, oh, great. we're going to hit theright group of people. so that's absolutely fantastic. but what i want to know is,what are you all so busy with? and i'd love to hearfrom everybody here. so go ahead anduse the chat box.
we're going to use thisthroughout the night. tell me right now what has youso busy right now in your life. is it is work? is it school? is it a particular project? is it volunteering,or maybe it's the opposite endof the spectrum, and it's dancing with thestars and watching that. whatever it is, go ahead, andbe as specific as possible.
put it in there. get it into that chat box. now while you're all typingaway, i've got to tell you, i want to take a momentto recognize joshua, and i've been working withharmony and the whole rest of the global connections team. and we've been workingfor months actually now to bring this to you. and i don't know ifyou all know this,
but you guys definitely havea world class team over there at global connections, and theyprovide a pretty world class service, and this isn'tat every other university. so i want you toknow that as well. now a couple of thethings here, let's see. megan's busy with schooland full time work, and tammy-- oh, tammycan see in here. so we've got people thatare busy with all sorts of different things and peoplefrom all over the world.
i want you to think aboutwhat has you so busy as we're going along here. priscilla says work andschool too, by the way. and carry that in your mind. tammy says work projects. so again, we're goingto end up using this. shelby says she'sgot a big project at work, buying and sellinghomes, kids, all of the above. i've got the samestuff going on here.
carrie says work andrecovering from medical issues. oh, yeah. that's definitelygoing to keep you busy dealing with major lifechanges, absolutely. anna says, when free,deciding how to organize all that i want to do. yeah, absolutely. full time work, part timeschool, treasury aviation club, president of anotheraviation club.
victoria's got alot going on too. now sky says college,starting my mpa application. so we've got lotsof stuff going on. everybody's definitelyqualified as busy. nicole says workand school and kids. i've got the samething going on too. i've got three little kids--five, six, and eight-- and their ages keep changing,so i can't always remember them. but yeah, five, six, and eight,and it goes back and forth.
harmony even saysrunning minute to minute. ok. well, keep that inmind, and i want to queue up the slides here. but as we're goinginto it, we're going to talk about what hasus so busy and how to be, as we said at thebeginning, less busy, because that's important,because we want to have you beable to enjoy life
and get the mostimportant things done at the exact same time. so on that note, here we go. let's dive right into it. let me ask you,what is busy anyway? let's say you're in the storeor on your way to class or work, and you see someone you know. you might ask, how areyou, or how have you been? they might answer,good or fine or great,
or if they have any amount ofambition at all, they answer, i've been busy, orman, it's crazy, i've been so busy, orjeez, you know, just busy. we might laugh, and wemight congratulate them for their busyness sayingsomething like great, or that's betterthan being not busy, or for those of us that arealso particularly ambitious too, we actually join in. say, yeah, i've been busy too.
man, i've been busy. oh, it's been crazy busy. so what is busy? we've actually turnedbusyness into a pastime. honestly, i don'tthink we would really know what to do with ourselvesif we weren't so busy all the time. sometimes busy isthis badge of honor that, especially ambitiouspeople, bestow upon themselves
to make them feel betterabout a bunch of stuff that they don't reallywant to be doing anyways. it's a distraction anda bit of an advocation to avoid what's reallyactually important. now i can show you techniquesto become less busy, and don't worry. i'm actually going to giveyou a few very effective ones before we end here tonight. but first, youhave to understand
what's really importantin your own life first for it to work well. now if you would'veasked me five years ago what was mostimportant in my life, i absolutely would've toldyou it's my wife and kids. but then somethinghappened that made me realize i was foolingmyself quite a bit. i woke up one morningjust like every other day. well, i did hit thesnooze button once.
but other than that, itwas a normal morning. i went out to the kitchen, and imade some coffee on the keurig, of course. i began brewingmy cup of coffee. i sat down and gotlost in work for a bit. then a couple ofhours passed by, and i actuallyheard my name coming from someplace in our house. then i heard it again.
and i realized itwas my wife, alyssa. only you know how whenyou hang around somebody for a long time, you can tellalmost anything and everything from the tone of their voice? well, this wasone of those tones that i've only heard afew times in the 16 years that we've beentogether, and i knew that it meant that somethingwas seriously wrong. it took me anadditional half a second
for my brain toclick and realize that on this morning,which i thought i was like every othermorning, something was really, really not right. so i shut mycomputer off my lap, and i sprinted to theopposite side of the house toward the bedroom, and icould hear the shower running as i dodged coaches and legosand everything else that was in the way, and i cameinto view of alyssa crying
and not really movingbut clearly in pain. and a split secondlater, i was trying to ask her whatwas wrong, and she told me that she couldn't reallysee and couldn't really hear. alyssa: so i walkedin the bathroom and turned on theshower and turned around to go get myself out andready for the shower, and all of a sudden, thepain increased in my back, and i kind of stoodstill for a second.
i looked in the mirror, andmy face was totally white. and the pain was increasing. i felt more sick tomy stomach than i had, and i kind of stood therefor a couple of seconds thinking that i wasgoing to pass out and trying to decide whatwas the best maneuver to make before i hit the floor. and i finally-- i don'tknow how but decided it was best justto get on the floor
before i fell on the floor. so i slowly mademy way to my knees, and that's about the point wheremy vision started to go blurry. and then i could feelthe pressure in my head. i couldn't really hear anymore,and the pain in my back was-- i don't even know howto describe it-- like searing is the best way ican describe it. i was sweating,and it hurt a lot. scott anthony barlow: afteri got her back into bed,
i canceled everything i had,my morning appointments, and by 9:00 am, we wereat physical therapy, and alyssa was getting seen. she came out, andthey determined that the combination ofteaching a bunch more fitness classes than usual, startingto do some longer runs again, and taking a beginner's yogaall will-- ignoring some really major pain forabout three weeks-- have led to her having someseverely compressed nerves.
the important partthough out of all of this was that she was goingto be ok, and everything was going to be ok,except that it wasn't, because even though i justgot done congratulating myself on how well i'dsupported my wife, it really took me lessthan 48 hours to realize that i wasn't really actuallyputting her first after all that. because right now, shecouldn't do dishes, and she couldn't do laundry,and she couldn't pick up
one of the billion pokemoncards that our kids have left all over the house. what was the problem with that? well, i didn't feel likei could do them either. now i want to ask you aquestion before i move on. let me ask you, doyour priorities really match your actions? see, i'd been building thiscompany on the side of my day job in hr leadershipfor several years now,
and i was working full timein nearly both of them. and it was a struggle. it was a struggle. and you might say, well,just take some time out of both of those, and takecare your family already. your wife needs it. and you would be right. absolutely. that's where theproblem comes in.
i didn't feel like i could. my boss was alreadybending over backwards to allow me the flexibilityto build this business, and i had somehowunintentionally molded the businessto where it needed me to be available for it. i had absolutely forgottenmy original intention in the first place, which wasto put my family first and be there or them.
in the process, ihad lost control. i'd lost control to the pointwhere i couldn't do the dishes, and i couldn't do thelaundry for alyssa for just a couple of weeks whenshe needed me the very most. and the funny thing is that'spart of how this stuff happens. that's how we get so busythat it's beyond our control, and for me, this had to change,because this really wasn't how i thought life should be,and it definitely wasn't what i was teaching peoplethrough my business,
through happen your career. i didn't want to be a hypocrite. really, absolutelydidn't want to be. so i decided i need tomake some major changes, and it started immediately. right after i had thisconversation, just a couple of days after thisincident, with my friend jodie. now jodie told me the storyabout a guy named lee cockerel. he was an executiveat disney, and he
was the guy who was responsiblefor creating disney paris. and at one point, he wasover all of the theme parks every place in the world. and when lee wasat disney, he used to tell his assistantthat if his wife ever called, to get him outof whatever he was doing. it didn't matter what it was. it didn't matter if he was withthe president of the company. it really just didn't matter.
if his wife called,his wife priscilla knew that he wasbusy, and if she was going to takethe time to call him, it meant that it was important. he was also very upfrontwith people at his office that his wife and his familywere the most important thing, period. and then when ithappened, it wasn't really a surprise to them too.
so now to some people,this might sound either unrealistic or crazy. i mean, how could youdo this in your job? that's they're paying youto be available, right? now to me, this actuallysounded like making the things you sayare the most important actually the most important. and since then, i'vestarted trying this. i've started trying toput it into my life,
because i've realized thatmany of the things that we tell ourselves wehave to do cause us to change our priorities. so for me, and it couldbe different for you, and that's 100% ok. you've got to figureit out for yourself, but for me, my family isthe most important thing, and i'm going to act like it. so here's what i want you to do.
i want you to takeout a piece of paper, or you can take outyour phone or evernote or one note or any placeyou can take some notes. just go ahead and get that out. i'll give you afew seconds here. i want you to get it out, getit ready, get it available. again, doesn't reallymatter what it is. now as soon as you get that out,here's what i want you to do. i want you to write down allthe things you already know,
because most people already knowsome of these-- a lot of these, in fact. not all of them, but most peoplealready know some of these off the top of their head--that are the most important you. i want you to be declarative. go ahead and do this. don't worry. i'm going to waitfor you for a second. let me give you afew seconds here.
write some of those down. write a few of them down. we're not going to cue thejeopardy music or anything else. but here's someother questions i want you to consideras you're doing this. what are the thingsin your life right now that you say are a priority,but when you look closer, you really aren't acting like it? or what are theareas of your life
that you want to make a higherpriority and most important? is it your family? is it your mom or dad? your spouse? your girlfriend, boyfriend? your pursuit of somethingthat you love to do? your side project? maybe it's your healthor your fitness. god.
it could be a number ofdifferent things for you. what is it for you? and part of the reason iwant you to do this is i want you to be thinkingabout, what is your why? what is your whyto not be so busy? what are those mostimportant things? because when i show yousome of those techniques and tactics alittle bit later on, this stuff doesn'twork without your why
and without alreadyhaving identified clearly and declaring, what are someof those most important things? what's that thing in your life? again, write it down. so why is this so importantto consider right now? why is this such an issue? why is this pressing? here's why. imagine five years from now.
i want you to think about that. and let's assume thatin five years from now, you're going tolayer in more stuff. you're going to add more to it. what is going todrop out the bottom? for most people, it's goingto be the stuff that they say really matters to me. that's what happened to me. i mean, i just told you a littlebit about one of those stories.
i wish i could saythat was the only time, but that's what happens. and look around, and it'seasy to see this happening all over the place,because we aren't really living our priorities. so i work with lotsof coaching clients, and i help themreally identify some of those most importantthings and the way that they want tospend their time,
and on average, it usually takesme a month to several months to help them work throughthis type of process and really get clear onwhat it is that they want. so i don't expect to gothrough that entire process in the short timethat we have here. but here's what i want to do. i want to give you aresource so that you can go through evenmore of it on your own, aside from what we've alreadylisted down on paper for you
right now, some of thethings that you already know. because there's otherthings that you're not thinking of that arealso important to you in your life, your work, yourcareer, and everything else. so if you want somehelp figuring out your priorities and some ofthose most important ways to spend your timeand how that relates to your career and your life,you can visit figureitout.co, and we've got a free eight-daycourse set up there for you.
that'll help youwith exactly that. so that's another resource. you can have that. we'll do that for you for free. but what now? let's say that you're fired up. [laughing] you're saying, well, idon't want to do that. i don't want to be busyjust because that's
what everybody else is doing. that sounds silly. so what should i do differently? what should i do differently? now that i'vealready figured out some of the stuffthat's important to me, what is it that ishould do differently? hold on there, bucko. here's the onlyproblem with that.
problem number oneis everybody else has differentpriorities than you. this is a major issue. if you look around,your professor's going to havedifferent priorities. your boss is going to havedifferent priorities than you. everyone has differentpriorities than you, and once you startbeing declarative, you're probably going tomake a few people angry,
and that's actually ok. everybody will havedifferent priorities, and that's important to know. so that's one of the problemsthat you're going to face. and again, i'm going to giveyou some things to help out with these problems. problem number two, alsovery important to understand. you've got infinitechoices and distractions that can take you away fromwhat is really important.
just look around ateverything from technology to opportunities to things todo that's available to-- i mean, we live in an entireworld of infinite choices and distractions. is it a first world problem? yeah, sometimes, but it'salso realistically a problem. so this is problem number two. you've got these infinitechoices and distractions that can take you away.
ok? so here's what i want to do. i want to give you thesethree tricks and hacks to be able to help you. so trick number one, this isone of my favorite things. by the way, as i lookback on the last 10 years, and at one point in timewhen i was going to college, i was running abusiness on the side and just recently got marriedand all these other things
along those lines,and then ended up building a business on theside of my regular job too. so as i look back on allthese different things where fitting in businessand family and another job and everything elsethat's happened for me over thelast 10 years, these are some of the mosteffective things. and on first glance,they're not going to sound like thatbig of a deal.
but i want to help youunderstand why they are ridiculously effective for me. trick number one, i callthis the 1/2 notecard. i've heard variationsof it over the years, and i've seen it in alot of different forms, but i actuallydidn't start using it until i read tim farris'sbook, the four-hour workweek. don't know if you'veever read that. great book.
worth a read. it'll challenge you quite a bit. now one of the thingsthat he suggests in there take a piece of paper,and fold it over, and fold it over again, andfold it over again, and then what you'regoing to do is you're actuallygoing to identify the one to two mostimportant things you need to get done that day.
i suggest the notecard, simplybecause it's already small. you can only fit so manythings on that anyway. you don't want threeor four or five or 10. you absolutely don't want that. instead, i want you to givea little bit of consideration for that particular day when--this is best done either actually the nightbefore or even when you wake up in the morning. i want you to identify, whatare those one to two things
that if you do nothing elseor you get nothing else done that particular day,these are the most important? and then i want you to keep thiswith you throughout the day, and as you find yourselftempted to do the other things, i want you to look at thisand dive into these first, and remind yourself thatthese are the most important. this is what's goingto move you forward. really, reallysimple trick, but i want you to focus on doingthose before anything else
that you do. again, very simple,but it works partially because you've gotit ever present with you throughout the day. literally, put it in your pocketso that you feel it there, and it reminds you throughoutthe day what those two most important things are. you're going to pull itout, just look at it really, really quick, and again,doesn't sound like a big deal.
but if you've alreadydone that five minutes of hard work in a given day tounderstand, what are those most important things,then you're going to get less distractedthroughout the rest of the day. so the 1/2 notecard trick--this does absolute wonders. and again, resist the urge toput three or four or 10 or 15, 400 things on there. got to be one to two. limit that down to one to two.
trick number two,this is a good one. this is one of my favorite ones. there is a word that actuallyhelps you stay less busy. it is that powerful. the problem is it seemsto have fallen out of use in our society. what is it? well, it's no. it is n-o, no.
it's something thatis often hard to say, because we sayyes to everything. we have a tendency to wantto say yes to opportunities. we have a tendency to want tosay yes to friends, to family. there's only somuch time in a day. if you say yes totoo many things, your time is goingto be taken up. and then guess what. you're going to wake upthe next day wondering
why you didn't getanything done or didn't get to spend any time doing someof those most important things. and that's what happensto almost everybody. this is part of what causespeople to feel overwhelmed. they take on toomany commitments. they get to that point wherei was talking about where you lose controlthat i've experienced a number of times in mylife, and it's unintentional. it's from a good place.
so it's coming withgood intention, but i want you to getused to this word. here's how it works. you put your tongue to the backof your teeth, and you go nnnn. i'm just kidding. but here's how itactually works. i want you to practicesaying no gracefully. this is an art, becausethis is something that actually when you say no,most people that really value
what is most important intheir life-- for example, millionaires. millionaires are good at this. i've seen a number of studiesagain and again and again. they have a number of thingsin common besides net worth that have zeros on the end. but one of those biggestthings that they have in common is they say no to the thingsthat aren't the most important. that's not to say that if yousay no and start saying no,
you're instantly going to addmore to your bank account. my lawyer says that ican't tell you that. but i do see thatpeople with this skill get to do things that aremost important to them much more consistently. so i want to give you justa couple of quick ways to be able to do that. so your friend comes over,or maybe your professor. we can pick a situation.
you're going toget the opportunity to say yes or no hundredsof times a day sometimes. so let's go with thefriend situation. they say, hey, canyou help with this? get ready. it's a little bit difficult.you say, you know what? i would absolutely love to. i am really, really sorry. i can't.
if i come help withthat, then that's going to cause me tonot be able to do this. and you can insert thatother thing that you-- you've already done yourwork, so you already understand what is thisbigger priority today. and it allows you to beblatantly honest with them, because we have a tendencyto say, well, you know, here's my excuse for whyi can't come up with that. but just be blatantlyhonest with them.
say no. they'll appreciateyour honesty, and it's much, much more graceful thantrying to find an excuse out of it. this is something that takesa little bit of practice. it doesn't sound likeit should, but it does take a littlebit of practice in order to be ableto say no gracefully. i want you to try sayingno sometime this week. you're going tohave an opportunity.
you might have anopportunity later today. you might have anopportunity later tonight. i want you to try saying noto someone sometime this week. remember this. let me give youtrick number three. it's called removing the junk. now if you simply chooseto do less stuff that doesn't contribute to what youwant, that's intentionality, and that's removing the junk.
sounds logical, right? so how does that actually work? for example here, letme give you an example. i used to get the mailevery single day, every day. our mailboxes-- well,except for the days it wasn't deliver,but every other day. but our mailbox is probablyabout 150 feet from our house, and i would walkover there daily, and i'd fiddle with the key,which never really works
quite right. and then i'd open thebox, and i'd discover five pieces of mail overall. and probably out of thatfive, three are probably junk mail, maybe a creditcard application offering me the latest color and typeof metal credit card, platinum or silver,whatever it happens to be, and then one is probably astatement from someplace. and the other onemight actually be
an interesting piece of mail. but it's usually not. so this ritual might takeless than 10 minutes a day. i mean it's 150 feet. it just takes a little walk,and then i open the mail, and whatever else. so less than 10 minutes, andyou think, what's the big deal? so cumulatively, thismight be just slightly less than 50 to 60 minutes aweek that's really not
adding anything to my lifeother than maybe i get the 150 feet of walking exercise. but when you add that allup, 50 to 60 minutes a week for something that's reallynot adding any kind of value into my life? that's a major deal. how many of these fiveto 10 minute tasks do you have during the daythat aren't adding value to your life?
think about that. how many do youhave in your life throughout your week insideof work and outside, a college class, or whateverit happens to be, that really justaren't adding anything, or they're taking you furtheraway from what you really want. now almost embarrassinglyso, i found way more of these things inmy everyday life than i care to share with you.
and i'm willing to bet thatyou have some of these too. now if you're sayingno way, scott. my life is so busy, i don'teven have time to get the mail, because my life isso busy, then i'm going to ask you how many timesyou've already checked facebook or your social media of choice,because those little numbers next to your appicon on your phone? yeah. i'm talking to you.
or maybe you've already disabledthose notifications, you say, because you've alreadyrealized that, hey, that's probably notadding that much value to your life, whatever it is. and you're beingreally intentional. you're only checking facebookor social media or whatever, and this is not a hack onyou for checking social media or anything like that. but what about another example?
what about your emailat work and every time it dings or pops up alittle thing on the screen? and then you go intoit, and then you end up losingseconds which add up a lot over thecourse of the day. or phone messagesfrom your co-worker that you had to check. you couldn't stand the redlight, so you had to check it. whatever it is.
so i actuallystarted experimenting with this in my hr joba couple of years ago. i actually changed mymessage, my phone message to say that i would callthem back when i could, and i just couldn'tanswer right now, and then i actually stoppedchecking my messages for a day at a time. then i went to a couple of days. then several days.
and then i went toa week at a time. so miraculously,because i thought it was going to becrazy, nothing blew up. surprise, surprise. nothing blew up, and peoplethat truly had urgent needs actually found other waysto get in touch with me. but what i did do isi found out that hey, most stuff really isn't urgent. most stuff is takingme away from what
is most important,and best of all, i must've avoided atleast 500 calls of people trying to sell me stuff. so i ended up saving aridiculous amount of time that just didn't matter. but that's a faux pas, right? you have to check yourphone messages, right? you have to. it's part of my job.
and the reality was irealized that it was my fault. this was my fault that i hadunintentionally conditioned people to expectthat i would return their messages immediately. that was not their fault.that was not their thing. i'm the one who did that. i'm the one who set that tone. i'm the one whoset that example. so as we thinkabout that here, i,
i hope, and my hope, iguess i should say, in delivering this talk isi want you to, as you think about this, and as you thinkabout your life and your work and your education, iwant you to figure out what is absolutelymost important to you. and then i want youto have the courage to act on it more often,and i promise you, if you do that, youwill be less busy. now after that, i want you totake just one of these tricks,
just one of them, any oneof them, and act on it sometime in the next week here. i want to say thankyou very, very much. i really appreciate youspending time with me, and i want to hang aroundjust a little bit, just in case anybodyhas any questions. and by the way, you cango ahead and tap those into the chat box onyour right hand side. we might already havesome questions that
got asked earlierin the session here, but as you're doing that,anything that you need or wanted to ask later on too,i want to make myself available. you can email me as well,scott@happentoyourcareer.com. all right. like i said, i had tobreak into the slides here, but for any questionsthat you have, go ahead and type them intothe chat session, the chat box, and i'll be thrilled topieces to hang around here
for a few minutes and answeranything that i possibly can. other than that, i thinkthe one of the things that we didn't get to talk asmuch about during this time, and where all of those tips,those tricks, those hacks come from is really the what isreally not just adding value into your life, butwhat is most effective? and we can talk as muchabout the 80-20 rule, but that is critical, soreally that comes from, if you've heard of pareto'slaw and pareto's raising peas,
and noticed that 20% of themwere producing 80% of the peas. so that ended up,over time, noticing almost every aspect oflife had something similar. 20% of the resultsor 80% of the results come from 20% of the inputs. and that's whati would encourage you to do in yourown life as well, but if you've got any questions,go ahead and last opportunity. type them in here, and i'dbe thrilled to, like i said,
try and answer a few. and otherwise,thank you so much. really appreciate it,and got to put thanks out to harmony and joshuaand olivia and everybody else on that team. you guys have been awesome. thanks, carrie. really appreciate it. glad you enjoyed it.
and glad we gave you abunch to think about. that was part ofthe intention here. so we are going once, goingtwice, and by the way, if you have otherquestions, like i said, i put my email uphere and intend to be able to get back with youif you've got any questions. shelby does have one. she says, so what is youremployer's expectation that you're immediatelyresponsive to emails
and voicemails from clients? but doing so is distractingto your work priorities. so i've had that typeof job, shelby, and that is a hard place,because quite frankly, a lot of times it's unrealistic. a lot of times it isunrealistic, especially if you have additional duties,additional responsibilities, additional authorities,whatever it happens to be. everybody's heard of thechallenge and multitasking
and all the research andeverything around that, because on average, ittakes somebody 17 minutes to be able to refocus. so we all know the issues withit, so here's what i would do and what i have done inyour particular case. i would go and have an honestconversation with your boss. and in this honestconversation, i think there's a couple of thingsthat you need to consider. what it can be is, hey, look,this is a pain in my behind,
and i don't reallylike it all that much. and i would much prefer tobe able to get back to people within this time frame. it can't be about you. instead, it has tobe about how you're going to be able to addvalue in a different way. so just like yousaid, you've already noticed that it's distractingto your work priorities, right? so here's the way that iapproached that in the past.
i went to my bossand said, hey, i would love it if wecould try something. one of things thati've noticed is i'm getting less done thanwhat i think i could be. the reason i'mgetting less done is because we have thisexpectation that i need to be fairly quickly responsive. now if i could be a littlebit less quick responsive, i could actuallybe more productive
in these other areas. list off whateverthose other areas are. and then here'sthe critical part. ask for a trial. don't say, hey, whati'd really love to do is just never do this again. instead say, would you bewilling to try this out? could we try thisout for two weeks? and then if itworks, then we can
keep it or talk abouthow to modify it, or if it doesn't work,then we can go back to the original way. and then here'sthe other thing i would do in your case atthat point is make sure that it works really,really, really well. make sure it's one of the mostproductive weeks possible, so you can go back tothem and say, hey, look, this is much moreeffective, and it probably
is just off the get-go anyways. but then on top of that, man,look at these differences. here's what i was able todo during this time frame, and here's what i was able todo in this other time frame. so make it about youremployer, and make it about how you're going to add adifference in value as opposed to anything else. so hopefully that helps, shelby. let me know if it doesn't.
victoria has said to shelby,i ran into the same problem at work. i spoke with mysupervisor and now have a meeting every weekwhere i get all the [inaudible] in sending my help that week. it's really helpful. and that's a greatsuggestion too, but i think that youhave to absolutely go and try and partner withwhoever you're working with,
if that's yoursupervisor or your boss or wherever thatexpectation is coming from. and the reality is it'sabsolutely not going to change if you don't do that. sometimes thoseconversations are hard, but i find they aremuch, much easier if you can help them understandwhat's in it for them. so josh, you said,hey, somebody who's 22 and the wholeworld ahead of you,
i'm still strugglingto find my why. any tips on that process? yeah, i mean that'sthe core of what we do. the challenge is it is not easy. it is not easy. we typically usea process that's a little bit likeputting together a puzzle to help peopleunderstand both their why and the things that theyenjoy and their strengths
and try and combine allthat stuff together, because we spenda lot of our time helping people focus onwhat type of work and career pursuits that theyshould be doing or should have thatreally fit them so they could spend the majorityof their time doing things that they love to do. so through that process,through that process, typically, we're goingin and understanding
a couple of different areas. area number one, and if you'regoing along with the puzzle methodology, then when you'reputting together a puzzle, there's an efficient wayand a not so efficient way. the efficient way is you'regoing to take the corner pieces, and you got those,and you separate those out, and you identifythose really quickly. and then you've gotthe edge pieces, and then you buildtogether the frame.
and once you buildtogether that frame, then you can actuallystart to fill in what the rest ofthe picture looks like. so very often, thatpicture, which sometimes can be your why, sometimescan be other things, is the hardest to fillout, unless you have that framework built out first. so within that framework, wewould consider those corner pieces to reallybe your strengths,
and what we call specificallyyour signature strengths. now signaturestrengths are really the combination ofwhat you're great at and also what you love,because often people have things thatthey're great at, but they may notenjoy it so much. so when those combinetogether, then that's what we start to considerthat signature strength area. and once you've got thosesignature strengths,
then that framework issome of the other things that you really want inyour life and in your work and i the differentareas of your life. so everything fromthe environment you spend time in tothe people you hang out with to wellness and healthand financial and all of these other pieces, and thatframework, once you have that built out, believe it or not,it becomes markedly easier to not only identify some of thewhy, but also at the same time,
to really figure out whatthat picture looks like, that, in this case, thepuzzle analogy, what that full puzzle when it's puttogether actually looks like. and that's theprocess that i would encourage you to go through. that figureitout.coactually helps ask some of thoseright questions to be able to reallystart figuring it out. but some of the questionsthat happen to be on there
are some of thosepolarizing questions like if you wereto die tomorrow, what would you regretnot doing or not being able to spend yourtime in a particular way? so that's a polarizing question. another piece of thatwhy, sometimes people are very excitedor very passionate about particular problemsthat they get to work on. and one way tothink about that is
what have you beenpersonally impacted or affected by in your life? and for me, part ofthe reason i started building happen to yourcareer way back when is i got fired from ajob, and it was a job that i was particularlyterrible at, and they should've fired me,because i was horrible at it. and i didn't know howto make career changes at that point in time, so idug in, read, and soaked up
anything that i possiblycould, and ended up getting a wholebunch of interviews and a couple of job offersand everything like that over about a three month period. then i made anothercareer change after that and did it again, andthen i made another one, and did it again. and i'd run a couple ofbusinesses over that time, and i realized that thatcame from my initial problem
and having to solve thatproblem was part of the reason i was pretty passionatearound it and pretty excited about helping other peoplereally solve and connect with that problem ina different way too. so what are thosethings for you? what are some of thoseproblems that you've experienced in yourlife that you've either been able to overcome orthat have impacted you? and that's another type ofthing that you can look for.
and again, thatfigureitout.co, it has a whole bunch ofthose types of questions. so hopefully, that helpsa little bit, joshua. that was the roundabout overviewto be able to center in on it, but it is not an easy process,and it's typically not a one and done type thing. the other challengingaspect is it continually changes for people. when i had the firstof our three kids,
like all of a sudden, my lifechanged, and the same things that i wanted before kids arenot the same things that i want after kids or even now. and so it ends up beinga moving target as well. and that why canchange over the years. so hopefully thathelps quite a bit, and again, if there'sanything else that you need, do feel free to email me. i get a lot of emails, but itry and get back to as many
as i possibly can. thank you very, verymuch for having me. i obviously justspent a whole bunch of time talking about howtime is valuable, so i very, very much appreciateon a high degree that you've chosen tospend your time with me. so thank you very, very much. i will see you allmaybe next time, if we do another one of these.
and i think, by theway, josh has a survey. go ahead and take asecond to fill that out, if you don't mind. i know that theylove the feedback. have a wonderful night.
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